You’re single on Valentine’s Day and nothing is okay.

Author: Drew Hartman

Another Valentine’s Day, and another day of being sad, miserable, and lonesome. Does that sound like you? If so, let’s set some things straight and turn that frown upside down.

“Random thoughts for Valentine’s day… today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap” – Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, 2004

Above is a quote from a movie I like, it embodies the feelings many single people have on the dreaded Sunday the 14th. The movie, although brilliant in portraying an untypical love story, still follows a pseudo guideline of placing one’s happiness within a significant other. Let’s go over that, but first one thing:

Valentine’s day is just a regular day! It really is, get that in your head!

Many people fall into the trap of believing that all they truly need is a partner to be happy. All they can see is their friends with relationships, and Hollywood stories portraying the perfect love story. “Why can’t that be me?”, they might ask.

There are some things you need to realize before you can get Valentine’s day as source of unhappiness out of your life:

Thoughts become things: If you place a miserable emotional value on Valentine’s Day, surprise, you are going to be miserable. It isn’t even about the day itself, it is about keeping an open mind.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Ghandi

You need to be comfortable with yourself, before you can be comfortable with a partner: You might have heard this one before, but what does it mean? Having confidence in yourself is going to serve as a magnet for attracting the right energy, or person for your life. If you can recognize your self value in who you are as a person, and can be comfortable in being yourself, there will be somebody heading your way if there isn’t already. To be beautiful means to be yourself!

Stop selectively comparing yourself to others: If all you are seeing is the happy couples when you go out to town, something is off. It is often said that money can’t buy happiness. The same thing can be said for a relationship; it does not equate to being happy.

Adventure! Instead of moping around this coming February 14th, let’s try something new. Change something about your normal Sunday routine that has the ability to shake things up! Whether it be joining a new club, checking out a new part of town with a friend, or picking up an old hobby, get out of the cabin and let your brain envelop the serotonin associated with doing something new! It might even lead to meeting someone special.

If you are looking for other tips on this subject matter or if you are simply feeling sluggish as of late, I can help! In fact, I am launching a brand new program about how you can overcome feeling STUCK and UNCERTAIN in your life. If you’re ready for a positive change, let’s connect.