Choosing Self Love
Not too long ago, I was just like you, hard on myself believing that I was less than everyone else. The mental image of myself was awful. When I looked in the mirror I tried to find beauty in what I saw, but it was difficult since I wasn’t what society deemed attractive and socially acceptable, at least not in my eyes. I tried changing everything about me: looks, physique, mentality… The list goes on. I did almost everything imaginable to try to fit the square into the circle, and no matter how hard I tried, nothing worked; I was still me.
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What comes to mind when you here the word: self-love? Do you think selfish, narcissistic, arrogant, conceited, or self-respect, confidence, accountability, and an honest inventory of self-image?
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Who am “i“, who is “self“? Am “i” all the experiences; the pleasurable and the uneventful? Am “i” all the good which has happened to me? Am “i” all the bad which has happened to me? Am “i” what “i” believe “self” can and cannot be? Am “i” what “i” think and what “i” feel? Am “i” what “i” believe and what “i” imagine to be based on my history? Am “i” what “i” see in the mirror (likes and dislikes)? Am “i” only what “i” can see?
A true understanding of the word “ego” is all inclusive both the good the bad the nice and the ugly. It is everything including the saboteur who creates “self” doubt and the “self” limiting beliefs stopping “self” from new experiences and from growth. And it is also the unconditional loving, helping and caring person that “i” wants to be. It doesn’t matter if “i” is a superstar or if “i” is a saint, whether “i” is shy and quiet or if “i” is loud and obnoxious. “i” is ego and that is what “self” sees.
But what if “i” had nothing happen; “i” doesn’t have much of a history – nothing good, nothing bad, who would “i” be? What if “i” isn’t defined by history, not by the pleasurable nor the uneventful, who would “i” really be? What if “i” is stripped of the status, the fame and the fortune, what would be left for “SELF” to see?
Who am I?
Did You Tell Yourself Today That You’re Worth It?
Self-esteem is what makes you feel good or bad about yourself. It will fluctuate from day to day and sometimes from moment to moment. It really will depend on the various elements within your life that are constantly changing and how you perceive yourself within each, which will determine your self-esteem.
Self-confidence is an internal belief of whether or not you are competent to fulfill an obligation from start to finish. You might draw upon past experiences to determine your confidence, or you might use wisdom and experience to develop new confidence. Whatever your confidence level is, it could impact your self-esteem if you are left feeling incompetent.
Self-worth is the feeling of being “good enough” your self-value. It’s an overall measure of your worth, which encompasses self-confidence, self-acceptance, self-respect, etc. But, by the mere fact that you were born into this Universe, you already are worthwhile and are invaluable. Your self-value should be equal to and never less than anyone else.
Self-love is what you owe to yourself for being unique. You should be proud of yourself and accept who you are with your strengths and all your weaknesses, likes and dislikes. If you do, you will develop a deeper level of confidence and will feel happier about being you.
Your belief system is what controls everything. Self-confidence, self-love, self-worth, etc., it even controls your behavior – how you act and react to situations. It’s been developing from childhood – your education, life lessons, and wisdom together create your beliefs. What you believe about yourself is how you develop your personality and character traits. And those determine how assertive or aggressive, confidant or shy you will be in any given situation.
Self-esteem is what you believe you can or cannot achieve. Its how you feel about yourself and the value you place on your self-worth. Its how much you know or how little you accept who you are. Self-esteem really is how you perceive yourself, your own knowledge about you.
Boost your self-esteem and feel good about yourself. Make an effort today to tell yourself how worth it you really are, because you’re worth it.
In Harmony With the Universe
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Imagine for a moment that all things come to life when you operate at the same frequency as the Universe. It is said that when we operate at this frequency, in harmony with the Universe, the stars align making all things possible. The question then becomes; how does one find the frequency in a world that is inundated with noise and moving at such a rapid speed?
Everybody is born and is already on the same frequency as the Universe. Living in the moment, enjoying the many wonders the world has to offer. Children rarely judge, criticize or feel the need to be more powerful then the next child. Yes, children poke fun, and do things just for fun with no concept of consequences; they just live in the moment- come what may. Children have no fear, they do things at the spur of the moment, and 99% of the times succeed at what they set their minds to do, the rest of the time when they do fail, they pick themselves up and try again until they succeed. The most classic example is the ability for a child to walk. Babies are determined at just a few months old to get from point A to point B, even if it means a few spills, but eventually they succeed. We are all living proof of this example.
At the age of 11 or at puberty, children begin the hormonal and physical change. Children or now teenagers begin having sexual thoughts, feelings and begin to change their behavior, challenging authoritative figures, such as parents and teachers. These years become the most taxing of all years for everybody involved, but this stage is all part of growing up, as they search for their true identity.
Unfortunately this is also the stage most begin to move away from the frequency at which all things become possible. This is the developmental phase, which introduces a mixed bag of emotions for a child, not to mention any learned behaviors and emotions they’ve already inherited from their immediate influencers.
During this stage, a child is learning how to deal with humiliation, blame, despair, regret, and so on. As a child begins learning these new emotions, they begin to move away from the frequency, the harmony of the Universe. As a child matures and enters adulthood, if the emotions were not adequately addressed, new emotions begin to develop to deal with the unaddressed emotions, a coping mechanism if you will.
Over a period of time, now an adult, he or she will begin to experience episodes of depression, caused by guilt, sorrow, regret, hate, blame and so on, and soon thereafter he or she may also begin to experience anxiety, fear or even phobias.
At this point, any person experiencing any of the symptoms described in this article, among other, will be far from any frequency at which all things are possible – they forget that anything is possible and consider life as they know it the norm.
Imagine a straight horizontal line, from left to right. Now imagine another line that is diagonal, starting at the bottom left corner to the top right corner. As a child experiences and hangs onto an emotion, each emotion can be written on the diagonal line. See how you begin to move away from the frequency of the Universe.
Map out how far you are from the frequency – the harmony of the Universe.
So how does one get back down to the horizontal line, the frequency at which all things become possible? First and foremost you must become aware of your behaviors and the power they have over your everyday life, but the most important of all things is to learn self-love. Without self-love, returning to the frequency at which all things are possible becomes difficult.
Self-Love and Self-Awareness are the two key ingredients for eternal happiness. Master your self-awareness and you too will be in harmony with the Universe making all things possible for you again.
Life
Flowing through you
A serene state of mind
At peace with the universe
Filled with love, JOY and happiness
Emitting an energy felt from across the world
Infecting everyone around you
In complete harmony with the universe
~~Bruno LoGreco
