An 18th century English poet named Edward Young once wrote that “procrastination is the thief of time.” If you are like most people, the thought of someone stealing from you probably makes you angry. Yet, when you habitually procrastinate, you are stealing from yourself. You rob yourself of time, focus and energy. Your procrastination can even rob you of the ability to realize the dreams and desires of your true self.Read More »
"Life Coach Bruno has been a big part of this journey in my life. He has helped me fulfill many of my life ambitions, and answered many confusing questions. I went to Bruno feeling a little lost, confused and lacking self-confidence. Within the first few sessions, I felt an instant connection and strong energy when I communicated with Bruno. He has shown given me guidance and re-instilled the self confidence that I needed to get me through this stage of my life’s journey. His dedication and passion for people truly make him a unique individual. His simple common sense approach is the intellectual mechanism to help one see life for what it is and not how others see your life. Taking control of my identity and knowing who I am have become effective strategies that Bruno helped me develop, understand and believe in who I am – the ability to remove myself from everything and see who and what exactly I am! Each and every time I left Bruno, I felt so empowered and motivated that I believe it reignited the fire inside of me. Now I have my vision, know what I want, when I want it, it’s up to me to get it. I will choose the path. It may be dirty and unclear, but it will be that much more rewarding when completed! Good Luck!"
My journey as a life coach started in late 2006, after resigning from a Fortune 500 Pharmaceutical Company. The last two years of my career before getting in to life coaching I lived in a hotel in a small town in the state of New Jersey. I lived there alone away from friends and family. Being away from home alone in a different country with nothing to do left me with a lot of time to think about the meaning of life and the purpose of it.
I couldn’t imagine working for someone else for 40 years, only dreaming of a dream while the people I worked for got to live theirs. It just didn’t seem right. Something else that bothered me was the idea of working hard until age 65, and then retiring. “Really! That’s how long I need to work for before having time to enjoy life?” That definitely didn’t seem right to me, not at all, in fact it made me anxious thinking about it. So I spent countless nights after working reading countless books trying to find a different way of life.
I read Tipping Point, Blink, Cracking The Millionaire Code, Chicken Soup For The Soul, One Minute Millionaire, Success Principles, Power v.s Force, Think and Grow Rich, the list goes on and on. I fell disappointed after reading each book. I was hoping to find the answer in one of them – my purpose – my next journey, the answer I was looking for. Instead what I found was another author writing about similar concepts that are common sense. “Everyone knows those concepts, tell me something I don’t know.” I’d say to myself, while losing hope of ever finding the answer.
Then one day in early 2006, a friend who lived back home decided she had enough of working for someone else and quit her job. “Heck, if she can do it so can I.” I said to myself. So I submitted my resignation. I gave them 8 weeks – 2 months notice that I would be leaving and returning for home. I gave-up my career and returned home to nothing. I literally jumped into a pool of nothing. Talk about being impulsive.
I did end up working for a national energy company when I first got home for a short period of time, but I just couldn’t do it anymore. I couldn’t work for someone else, so I quit after three months. With no income, no job and only with a promise of entrepreneurship – an idea to create a pet apparel company, I was desperate to survive. And so I created my own job for the first several months, consulting, providing my expertise in Strategic Sourcing & Vendor Management: negotiating and finalizing multi-million dollar agreements for companies without an in-house sourcing group. It was a gold mine because only big companies have sourcing professionals. Small to medium businesses don’t and are vulnerable to vendor strategies unless someone with experience, like me, could help them negotiate favorable agreements. So it wasn’t difficult finding business. But it was more of the same –It was very unfulfilling.
Then one late night in October of 2006, a friend and I were having drinks chatting about life at my place. She was struggling with a situation and had asked me for advice. I instantly saw what she was doing that she couldn’t see and I knew that if I could show her she would figure it out on her own and develop skills that would benefit her later. So I asked her a series of probing questions. Each one probing more into how her beliefs but more importantly why she believed what she did getting to the root of her problem – not the surface level cause. And with each answer it revealed a clue unlocking the answer and the solution of her problem. And that’s when she looked at me and said, “You need to become a life coach. Your really good at it”, she said. Those words vibrated in my head like nothing else ever did. They sent me into my past recalling every single memory I had of me helping someone. I have memories of me asking question and leading people to their own conclusions from age 10. I have memories of being in my teens helping friend overcome personal issues. I even was a 360 Business Coach for the Pharmaceutical Company I worked for. OH MY GOD!!!!! I’ve been life coaching my whole life and I didn’t even know it. BINGO-BINGO-BINGO!!!!!
“Don’t chase anything, just do whatever expresses your true self”
I haven’t met anyone who hasn’t chased an ideal or lifestyle. The lure of something better is attractive. It could suck anybody up, instantly.
I am fortunate because my internal radar tells me when I’m chasing something. It sends me warnings, and if I don’t listen it could turn into anxiety. Sometimes I get confused between chasing and following a lead that seems right. I follow leads all the way until I get to the end even if it doesn’t feel right. I have a hard time distinguishing between a “wrong turn” and “giving up.” But then again maybe I’m suppose to take those wrong turns, even when it doesn’t feel right…
The feeling I get on those rare but intense occasions when a wrong turn turns into a web of wrong turns and I can’t find my way out, it stirs the inside of my soul and spins it upside down. That ‘s what it feels like when I am totally off the beaten path. Unfortunately, it’s also when I realize a core value is in conflict.
The question I often ask myself when I find myself lost and filled with conflict is: What must I do to make it out of the maze and back onto the right path? STOP, become aware, remember the vision and make it a mission to navigate towards it. Continue to do those things, which are inspiring. Write about them and help improve the lives with articles, e-books, blog, workshops and seminars, and enjoy the rewards that come with it but never chase something that creates a conflict in a core value.
Bruno LoGreco Life Coach, Toronto Mentor & Motivational Speaker
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I’m smiling from ear to ear. It really is amazing what happens when you are living your purpose; things always work out and even more so, things just come to you because the stars align. I believe everybody has a unique gift. Some people will know their gift from birth, others will develop it over time, but many more will never even know they have one.
I am fortunate to have had the opportunity to extract myself from the outside world. I don’t know if it was luck, fait, or just the power of the Universe at work, but in the past five years I’ve been fortunate to have been given the opportunity to spend a ton of time by myself with little to no external influence to soul search. The last two years of my professional corporate career I lived in a hotel that is in a small town in New Jersey, I spent hours upon hour soul searching. When I resigned from my position, I returned to Toronto to become an entrepreneur. Money was tight because I was starting a new business so I stayed home most of the time, and unless I was with my business partner I was alone soul searching.
On March 25 2007 my eyes opened to my unique gift. All that time I spent alone searching for the answer to what I was meant to do for the rest of my life was finally answered. The moment I discovered my true purpose my life changed instantly. One day I’m starting a new pet company and in the next second I’m helping people live a different kind of life. My new career took off. The stars definitely aligned.
Up until this past December my life was crystal clear. Suddenly, I decided to add a twist to my life that took me down a different life path. The path I took was bumpy with lots of rocks, which bounced off my vehicle and sometimes hit me in the head. I pulled over a few times to check if was going the right way, but each time I checked the road map it appeared as if I was going the right direction, so I continued. With each passing mile in this new direction I moved further away from my purpose that fostered my unique talent.
When someone is in tune with their unique gift they drive their life towards the life they dream and things begin to materialize right before their eyes, but if they move away from their unique gift the power that comes with their gift starts to disappear slowly over time. The further away you move from your gift, the less power you have. Two weeks ago I pulled over to check my road map yet again only this time when I read the map I learned I was moving in the opposite direction.
Fortunately I fund my way back. The moment I arrived things started happening almost instantly again. The telephone started ringing with new opportunities and once again I felt like the sky was the limit. But most importantly I saw my future surrounded by joy and happiness like I did back in December.
When you are fortunate enough to realize you have a unique gift, your purpose becomes crystal clear as the stars align, granting you the power to drive your life whichever way you want to go.
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The dazzling display of pyrotechnics over the city of New York at the strike of midnight on the eve of the New Year charged my soul with renewed inspiration. From the moment the clock struck twelve, my anima, overwhelmed by motivation. The best way I can describe it is: A constant feeling of “Aha” moments, waves of happiness, joy, and excitement.
To me the energy I feel is an indicator that something incredible is happening. Even the energy from those around me is shifting, even among all the doom and gloom: A global recession, job losses in the millions, the credit freeze, the mortgage crisis, and still I hear stories of resilience, determination and perseverance, people picking-up whatever is left and starting over again.
I’ve been told that New York is the city of dreams – The city that never sleeps, and the only city where you can reinvent yourself over and over and become whatever you choose. Thousands of people flock to New York annually for this purpose alone. I believe NOW is the best time for anybody, no matter what city you live in to reinvent yourself. You can choose whatever lifestyle you want to live – whatever your heart desires. You don’t have to live in New York to reinvent yourself; you can do it from anywhere now.
The world as we know it is changing. History, politics the way we transact personally and professionally, even the way we choose our mate, and soon the banking system. We haven’t seen times like this since the industrial revolution – A new wave of entrepreneurs and innovators – dreamers alike emerging to tackle the globes biggest problems that face generations to come. This is an opportunity of a lifetime, an opportunity to be at the forefront in the next chapter of history – Don’t you want to be part of it?
Imagine for a moment living the lifestyle you dream of. Whether the life you dream is about spending more time with family or the dream of becoming an entrepreneur. Ultimately all your dreams are about freedom and flexibility – To live life the way you choose and with those you love and trust.
It’s About Passion, Purpose, And Love – Self-Fulfillment
People are slowly but surely getting a clue: In the pursuit of living “the dream” we all forgot about our own dream. Generation after generation, we all lived another persons’ dream – Whose dream may I ask?
Perhaps the shift we are witnessing isn’t so much a shift but rather a correction. Maybe it is time to get back to the basics – Back to a time when prosperity and success followed passion and purpose, a time when you worked the land or used talent such as your hands to create a piece of work. A time period when individuality was fostered and individuals were recognized for their achievements. Back to a time when perception was not reality.
Do you know what your life purpose is? What motivates you to get up and out of bed each morning? Are you getting out of bed for the fear of what others will say, or maybe you fear being fired form your job.
In the absence of your life purpose, what does your day look like? Do you find yourself getting mixed up in another person’s affair? Are you placing high expectation on others to gain a sense of validation? Or are you trying to control everything in the world around you with the exception of your own world?
What does your life look like without a sense of purpose?
Human nature leads people to seek the validation they did not receive as a child in adulthood. If you were abandoned as a child and lacked the basic need of a child, nurturing, there is a good chance that you place high expectations on others for the fear that they will abandon you. The results of your expectations will unconsciously determine the outcome of that relationship.
What’s fascinating about the validation adult’s seek is that it is also a strong clue as to what a person’s true passion and purpose is in life. The quality you did not receive enough of as a child – abandonment, nurturing, love, validation, motivation, peace, guidance, etc., what you didn’t get enough of is what you have struggled to create for yourself with external validation your entire life.
Become aware of what you truly want in life – the answer, as I often say, is rooted deep in the core of your being. It is impossible for you to find what it is you are truly searching for unless you spend time, quality time with self – to listen to what you truly are searching for. When you could answer,“What am I looking for?” you will have discovered a major clue that will lead you to your life purpose.
Happy Friday – Master Life Coach, Toronto native Bruno LoGrecoRead More »