What is Confidence?
Self-Confidence is extremely important in practically all aspects of our lives; however all too many of us have chosen to suffer in silence, masking the fact that we just don’t have it! This was the path I had been lost to, which lead me towards my personal awakening. I had just lost my job and was feeling quite low, berating myself in every way imaginable. Then one day, I decided to simply let it go…It was then, I met my life coach, who later evolved into my mentor and my whole world changed!
My name is Sandra Smilovits and I have spent more than half my life struggling with indomitable self-confidence issues. I come from a good family, full of wonderful childhood experiences and opportunities at my finger-tips; yet the jaws of fear, ever so ominously looming in the wayside, always gave way to my resistance in anything and everything I inevitably was ‘encouraged’ to do. I couldn’t escape the feeling that I was not worthy, not smart enough, savvy or pretty enough. I always felt as though people were judging me and I never fit the bill.
Read More »The Secrets of Self-Confidence
Guest Author: Ivana Pejakovic
The key to success, happiness, and overall life satisfaction is confidence. Those who lack confidence tend to miss out on opportunities that would bring them closer to what they desire.
While some people tend to lack confidence in multiple areas of their lives, others only lack it in one or two situations. We are most likely to lose our self-confidence when trying the new and unfamiliar (when we don’t have a clue as to how things will turn out) or in situations that bring up bad memories (e.g., presenting, meeting new people, etc.).
Read More »Conquering Fear
Are you afraid to try new things? Or do you make a few tentative steps then give up before you’ve had a chance to really begin? Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why? Is it to avoid failure or rejection? Do you feel the new task is too difficult, or you lack the required skill set? Is it a few steps too far out of your comfort zone? Are you concerned that others will point their fingers of judgment at your efforts?
If you answered yes to any of these responses, then shame on you. You’re justifying your fear with yet another Pyramid of Failure.
Read More »It Re-ignited the Fire Inside Of Me
"Bruno has been a big part of this journey in my life. He has helped me fulfill many of my life ambitions, and answered many confusing questions. I went to Bruno feeling a little lost, confused and lacking self-confidence. Within the first few sessions, I felt an instant connection and strong energy when I communicated with Bruno. He has shown given me guidance and re-instilled the self confidence that I needed to get me through this stage of my life’s journey. His dedication and passion for people truly make him a unique individual. His simple common sense approach is the intellectual mechanism to help one see life for what it is and not how others see your life. Taking control of my identity and knowing who I am have become effective strategies that Bruno helped me develop, understand and believe in who I am – the ability to remove myself from everything and see who and what exactly I am! Each and every time I left Bruno, I felt so empowered and motivated that I believe it reignited the fire inside of me. Now I have my vision, know what I want, when I want it, it’s up to me to get it. I will choose the path. It may be dirty and unclear, but it will be that much more rewarding when completed! Good Luck!"
Wipeout self-defeating & self-sabotaging false beliefs
Are you tired from doing nothing but lounging at home and surfing the Internet hoping to find the perfect thing for you to do; that “perfect” something where you will feel like you fit in and feel comfortable to be yourself? Staying home alone and doing nothing except surfing the Internet is a sure way for you to feel detached from the real world. You might be surfing the Internet for a very long time before you find that “perfect” something.
Trying to find where you fit in over the Internet and not in the real world is making matters worse. Stop making excuses for why you can’t do something in the real world because subconsciously each excuse adds greater value onto a developing self-defeating and self-sabotaging belief system. Find where you fit in within the real world. You could start from where you are at right now – in your home.
Actions speak louder than words.
Wipeout self-defeating & self-sabotaging false beliefs
- Review Pyramids Of Failure.
- Make a list of excuses you often use to avoid to doing something.
- Next to each excuse answer: Why can’t I?
- Prove each answer with facts. Ask yourself: Is my answer fact or assumption?
- Add facts to every assumption by actively participating in an activity away from a computer screen.
Boost your self-esteem by changing what you believe about yourself and your abilities. When you replace assumptions with facts you start to develop a healthy sense of self-worth as you become an active participant in life. Get Up and Out to prove your assumption with facts.
Polishing The Diamond Within – A Guide To Self Confidence
Self confidence is the foundation for success. Everything you are and everything you do depends on your self esteem. Your sense of worth forms the basis of your inner stability, your outer personality; and fuels your performances. Self confidence is not about beating your own drum or trumpeting your supremacy to the world. It is a quiet strength that comes from self-acceptance and inner contentment.
Self confidence:
• defines your self-worth
• provides a positive outlook on life and yourself
• defines how you acknowledge your inner strengths and weaknesses.
• provides the ability to accept the reality of your circumstances
• provides the courage to face your challenges
• proves your suitability for life’s tasks and situations.
• provides the foundation for happiness, well-being, and success.
• makes you more attractive to yourself and others
• makes you a better partner, lover and friend
To build your confidence you first have to know yourself. That process involves taking a thorough and honest look within to acknowledge the strengths humility may prevent you from accepting, and the faults that humiliation might prevent you from admitting. Self awareness is the only path that can lead to your desired success and beyond. Without it you are simply tilting at windmills following a quest that is both delusional and ineffective.
Thank you Bruno, You’ve changed my life
"If I had to sum up my experience with Bruno in one word, it would be “awakened.” Bruno helped me see life from a different perspective which is what I needed, but most importantly showed me how to do that myself without being dependant on him. He got me to let go of old patterns of behaviour and got me from being stuck in the past, to fully present in the future. I got a new look and a new attitude, and established some new behaviours like working out on a regular basis that have totally enhanced all areas of my life and made me feel more connected to life than ever before. I used to feel detached from life and would watch it pass me by, but now I’m fully engaged and loving every moment of being alive. Most importantly, Bruno got me to step outside of my comfort zone and do things I normally wouldn’t have done otherwise, which is undoubtedly the key to growth. I learned that attitude is a choice, and your thoughts determine what manifests in your life. I realize now that the reason I was stuck in a rut in the past for so long is because of what I was focusing on. I was focusing on what wasn’t working instead of what I needed to do to make things work. It’s the law of attraction, and that’s what brought me to Bruno in the first place.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears. I wanted to change, and needed that little extra push, motivation, and inspiration. My confidence has improved dramatically because I no longer hold myself back from doing the things I truly want to do. I don’t second guess or doubt myself or fear being judged by other people anymore because it’s my birthright to be happy and when you come to the end of your life you can either look back upon it with regret and say “I wish I would have, I wish I could have, I wish I should have” or you can say “I did it all, thank you and goodnight.” I now set goals on a regular basis and with each one I conquer I set my sights on bigger and better things. One of the most important things I took from Bruno was to dream big, because the only limitations are the ones you create. Bruno truly loves what he does and his caring and sincerity was evident from the first moment I met him. He’s the type of person I’ve always wanted to surround myself with. I look forward to continued mentorship even after the 12 week program is complete. If you’re reading this testimonial and considering changing your life, do yourself the favour and don’t put it off any longer. You can’t put a price on happiness. My overall well-being is in the best place it’s ever been, and it only continues to reach new peaks daily. Thank you Bruno, you’ve changed my life."
“Aha! I tricked you into believing you’re not good enough…"
“Aha! I tricked you. I tricked you into believing that you’re not good enough and that you don’t have what it takes to make it. And you fell for it! Aha!!!”
Knowing Who You Are
I realized that I needed to take time to learn who I was since I wasn’t sure that I ever really knew myself. I was always busy enough not to have to ask myself this question. My self-identity was defined by my social and career goals. Not having these in place had made me realize I didn’t know the real me at all... By IVANA PEJAKOVIC Taking responsibility for your action
