[intro-paragraph]Self-Confidence Crippled by Fear & False Beliefs[/intro-paragraph]
Fear triggers all kinds of emotional issues. It stops you from trying new things and it stops you from enjoying life. Fear cripples self-confidence and adds to an existing system of false beliefs, slowly swallowing your self-esteem as you run for cover and away from your full potential.
Running for cover is a response to a threatening stimulus. It activates a region of the brain that sends signals throughout the body to respond to imminent danger. Your heart beats faster sweat glands open and defense shields are up and ready to defend. But nothing in sight appears to be that detrimental.
Fear has the power to create illusions of worst possible outcomes. It plays on your deepest insecurities, unresolved childhood traumas, poor experiences, and misinformation.
The brain does not know if what it sees is fact or fiction. If you imagine the worst case scenario you will experience similar emotions as someone who is actually living through a worst case scenario. Since the brain cannot discern if what it sees already happened, is happening or is just being imagined, it responds to the stimulus as if it were real and happening now.
To overcome fear you must face it head-on. Working through your emotional triggers such as childhood traumas and other unresolved issues could help you take back control over your life. When you take back control you build self-confidence and raise self-esteem.
Start challenging the false beliefs that bind your fear.
- Ask yourself, what am I afraid of?
- Is the fear irrational? If yes:
- Try to identify the root cause.
- A. I am afraid of social gatherings because I don’t know what to say to people and feel as if everyone is judging me. I start panicking; I breakout into sweat, feel extremely anxious and will want to go home.I think I react this way in social settings because I didn’t interact well with other children during my childhood. My family moved a lot. Every school I went to was different and making friends got harder and harder after each move. Plus, being the new kid in school I was teased a lot.
- B. I am afraid of failing because I don’t want to prove myself right. That nagging voice keeps reminding me that I’ll never amount to nothing. So I do nothing to make sure I don’t fail.I think I react this way because when I was growing up I was always told that I don’t know how to do things. No matter how hard I tried to get it right it was never good enough. Someone always showed me the ‘right’ way. After a while you get tired of being wrong so you stop trying.
- A: I’m being judged, I don’t fit in
- B: Not good enough
- A: (False Belief: I am being judged) Reality: I’m insecure and socially awkward. I realize I need to build self-confidence and learn social skills so I could socialize and engage with other people.
- B: (False beliefs: I’m not good enough) Reality: I don’t always fail at everything. I may not be good at everything but I am good at those things that mean something and hold value.